Question: Older parents vs my life?

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Answer #1:

you have to live your own life.im getting older and wouldn't dream of my daughter giving up all shes worked for to care for me.

Answer #2:

If you like it here in the U.S. you should stay and visit your family whenever possible. It sounds like you have a very well laid life ahead of you in the U.S. Your parents are always there. It's alright to feel torn. You can always visit them. Don't give up what you have worked for and do what will fulfil what you desire most for your future.

Answer #3:

We parents in the west take a lot of flak from the rest of the world for letting our kids run amok, not disciplined, no respect for elders. However we would never dream of asking our daughters to give up their dreams to come and take care of us when we grow old. This is more of an Asian cultural trait and really hard to deal with because they have sacrificed so much for you. On the other hand in the west we also sacrifice a lot for our children, however it is given with nothing expected in return other than our children are happy, successful, and make the most out of their lives. Asians always think children in the west abandon their parents when the get old, the truth is we never expect nor want to be taken care of by our children when we get old.

As far as your boyfriend goes why has he not married you? You sound real nice, accomplished, and us white guys go crazy for Indian beauties. Have you told him about your dilema? To him he might find India as an adventure and perhaps you two could spend some time there. Of course he would have to MARRY you first. :) Do not think for one second he will not understand Indian culture and what is expected of you, we understand.





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